2018 is nearly over, and my mind is ran over by lots of uncontrolled retrospections and feelings, luckily, most of them are positive. Even though some of my goals were barely ‘touched’, some shamefully forgot, I feel very accomplished, which made me very confused, as for sure you know someone who is doing very well, but is still dissatisfied. I started to question, what makes me different? Whan makes me feel so happy and acomplished? This brought me to the point, where I started to think about my perspective of the over-glorified ‘motivation’.
I’m not a big fan of ‘motivation’ for many reasons. Mostly, because I don’t believe there is such a thing like motivation. In my opinion, motivation is just an excitement, when the ‘new’ appears on your journey – either it’s new career, new apartment, new resolutions, new habits.
And as most of us know, excitement (or motivation) is a feeling, which is not going to last forever. For example: you have decided to join the gym and work for the body of your dreams. First one/two months you feel ‘motivated’ to go there and give your best on treadmill every day. You see amazing results, but after that third week you feel lack of energy and your body doesn’t change that drastically, as it used to at first. Your ‘motivation’ disappears.
I believe in staying focused. The term itself is empowering – it’s all about you. Staying focus equals trusting yourself, your journey and your capabilities. You don’t rely on ‘motivation’ which, as you probably know already, comes and go really fast.
What are my top rules that help me to stay focused on my goals?
1. Be kind to yourself.
Usually when it comes to goals, it’s something new, or something restarted after a way to long gap. It’s a learning process. It’s not a school, you won’t get skills by learning it by heart, but by doing it in practice. You will make mistakes, that’s for sure. You will need to rethink, sometimes start from the beginning. You will need a break. If you feel very disappointed, frustrated or overwhelmed, make a list of your advantages, even as ridiculous like ‘I’m good at washing the dishes’ or ‘I make the best tea ever!’. You are the person that talks to you all the time. You wouldn’t want to spend time with someone who is really negative and way to heavy-handed towards you. Of course, self-assessment is very important, but make it constructive. Your journey is a process, which needs tons of patience and self-love. ♥
2. Focus on greater results.
Decide, what you want and describe it like a picture to your friend on the phone, focusing on every little detail. You can write it down, or lock the vision in your memory bank (aka brain), whatever works for you. Then don’t stop, untill you get it. You need to understand that during the time, your vision may get slightly in the different direction, or completely somewhere else, (your goals was to weight certain amount, but you realized that you feel great somewhere in the middle of weight loss or gain, or you wanted to move to bigger apartment, but staying at work till late night is not doing well to your relationship and you realize, that maybe you don’t need 4-bedroom house and 3 will do just enough for upcoming years) and that’s okay. As I mentioned, it’s your journey. Make sure that these changes are 100% team-working with your heart and mind.
3. Work every day towards your goals.
No matter where you are, how much you feel like not doing it, spend some time on your goals, even if it’s 15 minutes. Get creative! Even if it’s watching a tutorial or biography, writing few lines, mindstorming about next steps or content, taking a walk instead of bus, saying no to second drink, choosing fruit salad over ice-cream on vacation. Every little step towards your goal brings you closer. Not every day will be great and progressing, but marking the tiniest thing as done will make it count. As they say ‘A bad workout is the one that didn’t happen.’ – it this saying works for every aspect of your life.
What are your opinions about motivation? What keeps you going and working towards achieving your goals?