2018 is nearly over, and my mind is ran over by lots of uncontrolled retrospections and feelings, luckily, most of them are positive. Even though some of my goals were barely ‘touched’, some shamefully forgot, I feel very accomplished, which made me very confused, as for sure you know someone who is doing very well, but is still dissatisfied. I started to question, what makes me different? Whan makes me feel so happy and acomplished? This brought me to the point, where I started to think about my perspective of the over-glorified ‘motivation’.


I’m not a big fan of ‘motivation’ for many reasons. Mostly, because I don’t believe there is such a thing like motivation. In my opinion, motivation is just an excitement, when the ‘new’ appears on your journey – either it’s new career, new apartment, new resolutions, new habits.

And as most of us know, excitement (or motivation) is a feeling, which is not going to last forever. For example: you have decided to join the gym and work for the body of your dreams. First one/two months you feel ‘motivated’ to go there and give your best on treadmill every day. You see amazing results, but after that third week you feel lack of energy and your body doesn’t change that drastically, as it used to at first. Your ‘motivation’ disappears.

I believe in staying focused. The term itself is empowering – it’s all about you. Staying focus equals trusting yourself, your journey and your capabilities. You don’t rely on ‘motivation’ which, as you probably know already, comes and go really fast.

What are my top rules that help me to stay focused on my goals?

1. Be kind to yourself.

Usually when it comes to goals, it’s something new, or something restarted after a way to long gap. It’s a learning process. It’s not a school, you won’t get skills by learning it by heart, but by doing it in practice. You will make mistakes, that’s for sure. You will need to rethink, sometimes start from the beginning. You will need a break. If you feel very disappointed, frustrated or overwhelmed, make a list of your advantages, even as ridiculous like ‘I’m good at washing the dishes’ or ‘I make the best tea ever!’. You are the person that talks to you all the time. You wouldn’t want to spend time with someone who is really negative and way to heavy-handed towards you. Of course, self-assessment is very important, but make it constructive. Your journey is a process, which needs tons of patience and self-love. ♥

2. Focus on greater results.

Decide, what you want and describe it like a picture to your friend on the phone, focusing on every little detail. You can write it down, or lock the vision in your memory bank (aka brain), whatever works for you. Then don’t stop, untill you get it. You need to understand that during the time, your vision may get slightly in the different direction, or completely somewhere else, (your goals was to weight certain amount, but you realized that you feel great somewhere in the middle of weight loss or gain, or you wanted to move to bigger apartment, but staying at work till late night is not doing well to your relationship and you realize, that maybe you don’t need 4-bedroom house and 3 will do just enough for upcoming years) and that’s okay. As I mentioned, it’s your journey. Make sure that these changes are 100% team-working with your heart and mind.

3. Work every day towards your goals.

No matter where you are, how much you feel like not doing it, spend some time on your goals, even if it’s 15 minutes. Get creative! Even if it’s watching a tutorial or biography, writing few lines, mindstorming about next steps or content, taking a walk instead of bus, saying no to second drink, choosing fruit salad over ice-cream on vacation. Every little step towards your goal brings you closer. Not every day will be great and progressing, but marking the tiniest thing as done will make it count. As they say ‘A bad workout is the one that didn’t happen.’ – it this saying works for every aspect of your life.

What are your opinions about motivation? What keeps you going and working towards achieving your goals?

The most important month for Halloween Lovers is halfway gone, but it doesn’t mean you won’t be able to catch up (or watch again 25th time) on most iconic ‘scary’ movies.




If you are not a big fan of horror movies, like me (I didn’t sleep untill sunrise after seeing The Conjuring, and since then my relationship with horror movies, at one point lovely and unhealthy, is done), but still want to celebrate the Halloween, or you are just big fan of Tim Burton’s vibes (not only but mostly), here are my top 5 movies, that will give you that vibe without actually scarring the shit out of you:


5.Frankenweenie (2012)MV5BY2UwYWI3MTktM2MxNC00MjRhLTlkMWEtYTNjMjRkOTIwOTkyXkEyXkFqcGdeQXVyNTAyODkwOQ@@._V1_SY1000_CR0,0,674,1000_AL_

This amazing black and white stop motion animation (it’s basically re-positioning static objects while filming a frame per increment) directed and co-writed by Tim Burton is an amazing movie for cozy Sunday afternoon with family or friends. The main character, Victor is a young boy, home movie maker with big passion for science, not always understood by his family and colleagues. After a tragic accident, he decides to turn back to life his beloved dog and companion, Sparky.  His ‘dark’ secrete gets out of control, and brings serious danger to the city.

4.Coraline (2009)MV5BMzQxNjM5NzkxNV5BMl5BanBnXkFtZTcwMzg5NDMwMg@@._V1_SY1000_CR0,0,674,1000_AL_

Adaptation of Neil Gaiman’s award-winning novel with the same tittle. This animation is more closely to drama than family movie. 11 year-old Coraline, after moving to new house with her parents, feels very lonely and constantly neglected by her family. While exploring new surroundings, she finds the doors to another world – over-idealized version of her home, which seems to be too perfect.


3.Corpse Bride (2005)MV5BMTk1MTY1NjU4MF5BMl5BanBnXkFtZTcwNjIzMTEzMw@@._V1_SY1000_CR0,0,676,1000_AL_

Another stop motion animation from Tim Burton. Back in XIV century shy groom-to-be Victor after miserable wedding rehearsal decides to calm his nerves at the woods, where he finally recite his vows correctly. Little he knows about the presence of deceased bride, who rises from the dead excited for her new marriage. Corpse Bride introduces Victor to her dead friends, and he’s desperately trying to escape.



2.Beetlejuice (1988)MV5BZDdmNjBlYTctNWU0MC00ODQxLWEzNDQtZGY1NmRhYjNmNDczXkEyXkFqcGdeQXVyMTQxNzMzNDI@._V1_SY1000_SX670_AL_

Classic comedy directed by Tim Burton. Beautiful story about happily married couple – Adam and Barbara, who dies in car accident. Their spirits are locked in their house and determined to get rid of the new owners, who turns their beloved home upside down. After many failed attempts, they realize that only Lydia, artistic and rebellious teenager, can see them. The couple decides to ask for help a bizarre spirit, Betelgeuse, not fully aware of his true intentions.


1.The Addams Family (1991)MV5BODc1NmY0MDUtNjUzNS00ODdhLWJlN2ItMTgwZjczZjI0MDkyXkEyXkFqcGdeQXVyNTAyODkwOQ@@._V1_SY1000_CR0,0,761,1000_AL_

Perfect family movie directed by Barry Sonnenfeld. A grotesque and wealthy, yet with strong values, Addams family lives their happy, ‘normal’ life, surrounded by death. All until a tall man appears under their door, claiming to be Fester Addams, a long-lost, believed to be dead, brother. At first the head of the family, Gomez Addams, welcomes his brother with opened heart, blinded by thrills and excitement, but other members of the family start to raise questions and doubts. Fester has to face family’s maniacal games to prove them wrong and to take over Addam’s fortune.


What is your favourite spooky movie? Let me know in the comments.

Love, A.


Nowadays there are so many trends on marker, whenever it comes to fashion, interior, diet and lifestyle in particular, it is really hard to follow.

Every season – and there is two of them every year, when it comes to fashion industry, we would have to re-build our dressing room (not to mention re-painting walls – two weeks ago it was all about baby blue, but from yesterday mint took over,changing furniture, etc…) in at least 70% every 6 months.

And I am not going to lie – I need to pay bills, I have an unhealthy relationship with make-up and I love traveling as well as fashion and I couldn’t choose between.

How I’m planning to make it all work smooth and well together?

Here are my tips, how to stay on top without stressing out about your budget.


If I had a privilege, I would call myself The Queen of Basics. And there is so many reasons! You can always trust them, you can wear basic white shirt and ripped jeans and add to them something extra-this-season (shoes, accessories, jacket, hat and many-many more), and look fantastic! Obviously they are never out of style, so if you are starting your journey with fashion and planning your firs investments in luxurious pieces, I would recommend holy grail basics.

2. Ask.

  Do I feel comfortable and confident in that?

  Do I have something similar already? Do I even wear it?

  Where do I plan to wear that? What occasions?

  Is it even my style?

  Is it even worth that money? Is the quality of the product adequate to its price?

Always ask yourself – if the first question I mentioned is answered ‘No.’, do not ever consider going for it. Believe me – it may look stunning, but if you do not feel yourself in that, you will wear it once, maybe twice, if at all. If you have any doubts, even the smallest ones – it’s a red light. Listen to yourself and your body. Always.

3. Don’t pay for logo.

I’m a strong believer of quality over price and quantity, but do I want to spend that amount of money on that white, plain shirt from designer, when I can find almost identical (if not the same!) one, with the same composition of fabrics in high street store?

4. Don’t delay returns.

If you loved it in changing room, or it looked amazing on that website picture (touched maybe to heavy with Photoshop), but you came back home, tried it on and it turned out to be disaster, go back there as soon as you can and return it. Returning is not going to make them ban you for the store. Simply as that.

5. My Holly Rule.

I’ve been dreaming about that bag for about 1 year. I would have to spend more money than my 2 months rent. I love it, it’s my style, I’m living for that bag!

So let’s calculate. That bag would cost me, let’s say, £1.200 (but I could find it with some discount), I would wear it every three days a week and every other weekend maybe. In 2018 we will have 52 weeks, which gives me approx. 260 days in the year (not counting weekend days). If I am right, I would wear it 86 days a year, considering every day of using that bag. It gives me about £14 per day in only during one year, but probably would wear it for much longer.

Ask yourself  – is it something I can afford?

6. Try shopping with your wallet full.

I don’t know if it’s only me, but when I’m broke, I would have to have every second thing I see on hangers. When I’m straight after pay-day, I am the picky queen – I don’t like that color. Everyone wears that, I’m not going to. Look at that seam – who would place it in there? I look like potato. And so on. If you don’t have ‘full wallet symptom’, just ignore number 6. Actually – do opposite.

7. Make a plan.

Do you need a pair of jeans (and I mean real need of pair of jeans), but instead you end up with fourth pair of red high heels?

Make a plan. During the rainy weekend reorganize your wardrobe. Check how many pairs of jeans you have (when it comes to that particular example), think and ask yourself, what kind of jeans, or other piece, do you actually want AND(magic word) need, make a list, research online. Stick to your list nomatter what. If you passing by that shoes shop you love, and suddenly you realize you need that pair of black heeled sandals, go on – try them on, take some photos, but ask yourself question above (number 2), then give them back and if after 4 weeks you are still crazy in love, go for them. It’s highly possible that you won’t remember or… there is some discount now!

8. Sales/discounts.

Sometimes it’s better to wait. While on ‘waiting process’, you may realize you don’t even need, whatever you have been hunting.

You can find timeless pieces on sales for next year as well – just make sure they are really worth your space in wardrobe.

Try checking online and do your research. Some of the companies have discounts on the first purchase. Check your e-mail’s ‘Offers’ folder – male-up brands are the best ones, when it comes to some % discounts.

Check prices in the store and online – you could be shocked with price differences, especially on sale seasons!

9. Recycle!

I have habit to re-organize my wardrobe and house stuff in general every month or two. It gives you general review with what you really need to refresh next season. Always with my notebook and pen on site. Whatever goes away, I’m taking a list, marking what needs to be replaced, what doesn’t, so I don’t end up with no sweater next winter!

Whatever you did not wear for last year, you can donate, give another, beautiful life with friend or family. You could get extra money (for that new bag you are saving for) by selling clothes and things you don’t need online. There are so many free apps it’s hard to decide!

Many of stores offer discounts in exchange of used clothes as well and it gets more and more popular.


10. Secondhand

Hunt in the local Vintage Shops! Designers usually get inspired by past trends (this season 70’s are on top!). Not only you will save some serious amount of money, but can find some unbelievable surprises, especially when you take your time in searching between the piles of clothes.

Tips: Find out about supply dates in store, visit early. Focus on labels, while searching. Do not bother about men’s/women’s section.

Hope you enjoyed and find my tips useful!

Love, A xxx